What is the definition of Alpha submissive?
The terms alpha and submission have a few definitions. The way I will define it can be confirmed in the Merriam-Webster dictionary by looking up each word individually.
The way we will define alpha submission is to present or propose to, an original model on which something is patterned, for review, consideration, or decision. We will also be utilizing the Christian Model of man and woman as Christians believe that man was made before woman and woman from man’s rib (original model on which something is patterned). For clarification, Christians do not believe man is more or less important than a woman as the woman gave birth to the Savior. To the contrary, we believe that both man and woman have God given assignments through the power of their body and soul that may differ but are of equal importance in the world.
What is an Alpha Male?
Before we can dive deep into Alpha Submission, we must dispel the idea that alpha males are these macho men who walk around as if they are superior in every way to any woman walking the earth.
An alpha male does not need to walk around announcing he is an alpha. His presence should speak that on it’s own.
How do you identify an Alpha Male?
An alpha male can be identified by his presence, conversation, and manners.
When an alpha male walks into the room, he may be silent or boisterous. His conversation will be filled with wisdom, knowledge, diplomacy, and a bit of comedy. He will be kind to the elderly, treat women with respect, and behave like a gentleman.
He will not be rude, unsympathetic, or brash. He will not be haughty, use abusive language or practice injustice.
How does an Alpha Male treat the woman he is in a relationship with?
For clarification purposes, we will be using the Christian perspective of an alpha male.
An alpha male understands the power he has been granted from God, but he also respects the power God gave to the woman; antithetical to what is commonly understood about how the alpha male views the woman.
The alpha male treats the woman he is in a relationship with as if it were his wife with the intention of making her his wife. The alpha male has had his share of women and understands the complications involved with dealing in multiple relationships and the inability to give himself completely to each woman. He knows that dealing with multiple women will lead to stress in his life and incomplete satisfaction in the family structure.
The alpha male comprehends the value of the woman, her insights, decision making skills and intelligence and understands that listening to her will add value to his life and choices.
What is Alpha Submission?
Alpha submission is when a woman presents or proposes to, an original model on which something is patterned, for review, consideration, or decision. This means that she speaks with her prospective or current spouse in an effort to obtain guidance on her choices. She may already have her decision in mind but would like to gain additional consideration before confirming her choice.
This might seem totally off to some of you who have prescribed to the feminist movement in which running your decisions through a man is seen as oppressive. To be clear, you should not run your complete life decisions through anyone other than The Most High God. In addition, you are submitting your thoughts to a man you know to be safe, wise, intelligent and who has shown their ability to deal with you in a sensitive and effective way. This is also a man who has displayed undeniable devotion to you in the realm of being in a committed relationship.
How to be Alpha Submissive?
First things first, you MUST be in a relationship with a man who’s qualities are similar to the ones described in this article. No man will be perfect but if he displays the qualities laid out in this article, then you should be dating a good man who posses the ability to receive alpha submission.
Next, you have to start letting go of the past men who have betrayed your trust and pushed you to the point of hard heartedness. I too was a hard person who wanted to go toe to toe in verbal warfare with the men I was with due to the many toxic traits they displayed from their character.
Dealing with weak men who challenge your self-esteem and self-worth can change your attitude on how you view men and their level of intelligence, so the next step is to understand that all men aren’t the same, that you chose to overlook bad qualities and that you have a hand to play in your past experiences.
Then, you give yourself trust, grace, and love. Trust that God gave you the ability to detect bad qualities, but in the past you chose to overlook them. Trust that God also gave you the ability to read good qualities as you were with those bad quality guys due to the good qualities that they possessed. Trust that you can do an evaluation of this man and to the core of you know that he is an alpha male as described in this article.
Give yourself grace for choosing relationships in the past that were unhealthy for you. You only chose based on what you understood at the time. Commit to yourself that you will walk with God in this relationship and honor the model He has placed on this earth.
Love yourself. Love who you are and what you bring to the table. Love your strength, your power, your relationship with The Most High God, His Son, His Holy Spirit and His Word. Ask God if this man is worthy and listen.
Finally, if God gave you the green light, make up your mind that you can trust this man with your conflicting thoughts. Ask him his opinion on some of your decisions and take his advice. If his advice works out, let him know that it worked out for you and give him appreciation. Listen to his response on your praises and gently let him know that you will be taking his advice more often.
Proverbs 11:14
Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.
With Love,
Mother Ocia